Recently, my daughter was the victim of both cyber-bullying over FaceBook Messenger, and multiple times verbally at the high school she attends. She’s endured physical threats, extremely inappropriate behavior and intimidation She’s even been made fun of for her Type One Diabetes, suggesting her blood sugar highs and lows are really just excuses to get out of class.
As the mother of my Diabetic teenager, I can assure readers this is absolutely not the case. My daughter’s highs and lows, left untreated, can kill her. The stress and anxiety from being the target of bullying is dangerous as well. It not only affects her blood sugar swings, but shifts her attention from managing her illness while focusing on schoolwork, to managing her life and not getting beaten up while at school.
At this point, I’ve reported all of the incidents I am aware of with Grace. We are now in the process of working with the school’s administrators to get help for Grace and the other teens involved.
Bullying, I believe, affects the perpetrator as well as victim. We are born connected to the Source. What these kids have learned is how to disconnect, separate, conform while trying to be unique and learn in ways their brains can’t. They must look like kids on the magazine covers and tv shows, while often being taught their opinions don’t matter. Their lives aren’t valuable and there is no meaning or purpose for why they are here.
The TRUTH is so very different. If we could reach out to these kids and show them a better way, why does no one act? It’s not simply a matter of discipline, but of carrying a message of hope, love and gratitude we can share with them as these kids learn to enrich their lives. Children full of hope and love do not tend to become bullies as they grow up.
Here is another TRUTH I know about being bullied. It doesn’t only happen to children. Adults are often victims of bullying. I was. On January 10, in front of my daughter and our 10-year-old neighbor girl who was helping us at the barn, and our three horses, another patron at barn unloaded on me, attacking me for a variety of things, including my respect for my husband and my Christianity. For over 15 minutes I endured her destructive rant. By the time she was done, I was exhausted and deeply hurt. It took about three days to get over it. I used God plenty in those next days. He patched me up, giving me the time I needed to get back on my spiritual beam.
If you’d asked me on another day if I could withstand an attack like this, I would have said “Absolutely! With God’s help I can do anything!!” As it happened, on Sunday afternoon of January 10, at 4:20 p.m., I wasn’t in a good place. I was tired and in pain from a fractured hip. I chose not to go to church that morning, because “I can pray at home. Missing one Sunday won’t kill me.” I slacked on my relationship with God. My husband recently left us for a year’s assignment in Korea. I was vulnerable in many areas of my life and honestly had no idea. The price I paid was significant. I learned darkness takes hold where light is not nourished and sustained.
Back to these kids I wrote about earlier. I don’t know if Linda, the barn patron who attacked me, was a victim of bullying or was mistreated growing up. I do know the kids bullying my daughter at school have difficult home lives, very different from the life our family lives. It is hard to show mercy and grace when someone is acting like a mule. It was impossible for me to look into the face of evil and respond with compassion. But I was reminded today by my very dear friend Chelsea, God does this for me every day. He looks past my sin to see the Child of God he put me here to be. It’s my job to be the best Child I can be, to carry the message to all God’s kids I encounter on my journey through life.
Watching the news, reading Internet posts, we see war all around us. I wonder how often we see war in ourselves? This author was reminded to be on guard, to stand strong and help others find their strength. We are Stronger when we Stand Together, dressed in God’s Armor!!
If you are feeling strong today, don’t forget to thank to the One who blesses you with strength. If you are like I was, give Him thanks and praise, but ask Him for strength and protection. God wants us to ask. He longs to bless us because we are His children. While He blesses me, I’m seeking out ways to bless others. Sharing the message with others, it’s what I do. ~ R.